During Tantric sex, you want to channel all the beautiful sexual energy that would normally escape during an orgasm, back into your body. It gives you so much divine energy.
Indeed, achieving the big “O” is NOT Tantra’s main objective. Instead, you attempt to prolong the act, increasing potent sexual energy and intimacy with your partner. If you focus soley on the finish line, you’ll miss the amazing range of feeling the rest of the show offers. Sexual energy is one of our most powerful energies for creating health. Through our intimate connection with another, our stress hormones lower and our serotonin skyrockets.
Keep Your Eyes Open...Making love with your eyes open is fundamental to a deep intimate connection. But It’s harder to do than you might expect. Try to to move toward this idea as an intention. You will be amazed at how the collection of glimpses reshape your thoughts and feelings about both your partner and yourself. It is not always easy to be seen, even by the people we love. Truly witnessing the act of love is profoundly transformative.
Take it Slow…Foreplay is absolutely essential in Tantra. A SLOW, leisurely build helps men control ejaculation and piques women’s arousal. The longer you both linger in this delicious process of building energy, the longer your session will last, the more energy you will build, and the more satisfying your full body orgasm will be. Use this time wisely to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand.
Design a Sacred Space for Lovemaking and Intimacy…This should be a comfortable area that is both playful and relaxing. Make sure to clear the room of any and all clutter. Next, decorate with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics. Scent is key to our sensuality, so natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose are ideal. Your bed should be as comfortable as possible with soft sheets and a number of pillows. Lastly, choose a soundtrack of relaxing instrumental music (no lyrics) that you both like. Play it softly in the background to enhance your mood.
Breathe Each Other’s Breath…Harmonizing your breath is a simple way to get in sync with your partner. Straddle your partner’s lap (the yab-yom position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you are able to share your entire being with your partner. Becoming conscious about your breath is vital in all yogic practices and is foundational in Tantra.