TANTRIC SEX & EROTIC MASSAGE in Ottawa..for men & women..

 

THE TANTRIC TOUCH with the incomparable DAKINI BLISS

 

About me….I am an Ottawa-based Sex educator, Tantra/Sacred Sexuality Teacher, Author, Sexual Healer, Massage Teacher &Couples Counselor, my calling is to help people understand their sexuality and its intimate connection to spirituality.
 
The good news is that men can become multi-orgasmic.  Indeed, They can enjoy sex for hours without ejaculating.  The implosive orgasm of expansion…feel the excitement, learn to contain it, and allow this energy to dance in your being for longer periods of time.
When the man can ride the waves for longer periods of time, the result is bliss.  He can then have voluntary ejaculation, so he can experience what sex really is…he is more open, and not goal-oriented.  
Surfing is an apt analogy for the extended orgasmic experience for men. It takes more than a surfer, his board, and the ocean for the thrill of surfing to occur. The essence of the surfing experience is to be able to catch a wave of energy and to stay right at the edge of the steepest part of the wave without going over the top or out the bottom. The technique involves skillful negotiation of the “lip”, the part of the wave where
Surfing is in fact an apt analogy for the extended orgasmic experience for men. It takes more than a surfer, his board, and the ocean for the thrill of surfing to occur. The essence of the surfing experience is to be able to catch a wave of energy and to stay right at the edge of the steepest part of the wave without going over the top or out the bottom. The technique involves skillful negotiation of the “lip”, the part of the wave where the energy is most intense.
If the surfer goes too far away from the energy in either direction, his ride is over. In front of the wave the water is calm. The momentum from the steeper part can carry a surfer out into this zone as long as he knows when to cut back in in order to continue th ride. The back side of the wave is like the post-ejaculatory refractory phase for men. Once you’ve gone over the top, the ride is over.- And for men that means waiting hours for the next possible wave!
The technique involves skillful negotiation of the “lip”, the part of the wave where the energy is most intense.
If the surfer goes too far away from the energy in either direction, his ride is over. In front of the wave the water is calm. The momentum from the steeper part can carry a surfer out into this zone if he knows when to cut back in in order to continue the ride. The back side of the wave is akin to the post-ejaculatory refractory phase for men. Once you go over the top, the ride is over.- And for men that means waiting hours for the next possible wave!

YAB YUM


Many positions in the sacred erotic texts; i.e.,  the Kama Sutra & the Ananga Ranga are derived from the postures of hatha yoga.

 

The Tibetan Yab-Yum position, is the Tantric posture par excellence. Lovers are face to face and heart to heart, able to keep eye contact, kiss and caress the kundalini lovingly up the spine and over the crown of the head. Sitting up is an awake position, versus the association of sleep with lying down. The man’s lingam, the whole energy is vertical. The couple is set for take off to the outer reaches of ecstasy, yet the man can easily control his urge to ejaculate.
Are you intimidated by the vast array of positions or asanas seen in the Eastern erotic picture book? Actually, this wild kingdom of sexual acrobatics reduces to a few  basic yet very stirring poses. The more elaborate postures, given in the books as much for their visual impact as for any practical benefit, are simply variations on a theme.
One key to look for is the pattern of energy flow between the partners at the various points of thrilling electromagnetic contact–eyes, hands, tongues, breasts, soles of the feet and yoni/lingam. Because of the natural “come hither” curve of the lingam, goddess dominant positions tend to stimulate her G Spot more.
Thrusting patterns are the subject of much discussion in the ancient texts. Men tend to think that deeper is better because they see her shiver and moan when they thrust hard. But it’s not that simple. As in art so in life. Variety is the spice.
In practice, keep these 3 things in mind: tease her clitoris with your lingam before you enter. When you enter, stay just inside, just the head of the lingam or a little more. The nature-oriented Taoists likened this strategy to a turtle that sticks his head just a little out of his shell…Turtle Resting. Once you begin to move, don’t just vary by going side to side or in circles. Try three or six or nine shallow, followed by one deep. When you do go all the way, thrusting “to the North Star” as the Taoists say, tighten the anal muscles. It will make the head of your lingam swell. However you do it, this pattern will set up a tough & tender rhythm of shallow, shallow, shallow deep, shallow , shallow, shallow deep.
She will be looking forward to your deep move and may greet you with a vigorous thrust from her own pelvis.