Tantra can heal wounded your sexuality and give you back your body and your life. It combines the ancient spiritual arts of sacred connection to yourself and others, gleaned from the wisdom traditions of many paths, including Buddhism, Hinduism, Sufism and Native American spirituality. Using deep, intentional breathing, imagery and movement, tantra moves the kundalini or vital life force (prana) through the chakras, opening and energizing them, bringing you home to yourself.
What follows is a testament by one of my female clients who finally confronted being sexually abused as a child after she lost her devoted husband:
“I began my Tantric journey a few months after losing my long-term beloved partner to lung cancer. It was a very sad time and I was feeling so little physical pleasure that I lacked any and all sexual desire. When my best girlfriend presented me with a certificate for a 7-day workshop in Hawaii, I thought, “Great, sun, beaches and time for me to just laze around.” When I learned that I was actually in a workshop on sexuality, I thought “OMG, now what have I gone and done?”
But those 7 days forever changed my life. I learned my body is my own, I can set boundaries and allow only touch I desire, and I can feel desire and passion even without a partner. That week restored my sacred relationship with ME. This body that was actually designed to give me profound pleasure and fulfillment in ways that could bring me to the Goddess within.
Tantra opens and activates the chakras and, by moving sexual energy through them, brings up whatever blocks true passion. My workshop leaders and dakinis created a sacred temple where I felt safe to explore the pain of being sexually violated as a child, breathing through it to the pleasure beneath. In the exercises I could explode in rage, shake out the blocks, and reclaim a body ravaged by incest. I felt so accepted with all of my pain, respected and supported for my deep commitment to heal.
Tantra gave me a way to recreate my sexuality and enjoy the movement of orgasmic energy through my healing tissues. When I could make love again with a new partner, the practices guided me to connect my heart with my yoni (genitals) and enjoy a full-bodied extended orgasmic play far more fulfilling than ever before.
Today, I can make love in hundreds of ways; i.e., breathing alone with the full moon, running energy with the Goddess in the shower, touching hands on heart with my beloved and simply breathing love into each other, or through full, deep sexual exchange. Tantra adds the spiritual component so making love feels sacred… I am the Divine Goddess being honored. Such a physical and spiritual transformation! My mantra now is, “My body is my temple and I enjoy every day of my life within it.”