Fathom your physical formReflect on your looks and the messages of your body.   TANTRA weaves cords from each levels of your consciousness–each level conceived as a chakra into a magic carpet of kundalini energy,  soaring along your spine.  Experience yourself as a conscious bridge between earth and the spirit. Tantra activates the safe, sexy, powerful, loving, communicative, knowing  spirit within you, between you and your beloved, and between you and the world. 

Focus on the 1st chakra, concerned with your body.  Observe your body and dialogue with its voices.  Accept, nurture and adore it. Treat your body to tantra yoga, which in turn gives you ejaculatory control, multiple orgasm, overall health and the physical experience of the transcendent energy you can share with a beloved.

Feel your physique, its history, needs and voices that affect tantric sex. Create a private, uninterrupted couple of hours in a well-lit sanctum with space to stretch and sprawl. Provide a full-length and hand-held mirror, and, if female, a speculum.



Prepare a love-nest and set aside several hours when you’re wide awake, without pressing business or concerns. Imagine you prepare to receive and give leisurely, sensitive, unstinting sexual delight to the most important person in your world.
Make the boudoir you create warm and comfortable. Let it contain a stand-up mirror and a large hand-held mirror. Provide sensual music, fragrances, flowers, snacks, sacraments, massage oil or lube and plenty of large, soft towels.
Make sure no phone, delivery person, computer or dropper-by can intrude on the space you create for your tryst with the exalted person you plan to honor. Dress in your sexiest clothes.

Then invite yourself in; you’re the guest, the most important lover you’ll ever have. You.


Turn on the music, relax, imbibe. Stand before the mirror and slowly take off each of your garments. Look at your body objectively



Turn at different angles to the mirror; see yourself from several angles. Watch your whole body flow as you move.
Focus in turn on head, torso, legs, then crown, hair, face, neck, chest, back, belly, hips, buttocks, thighs, knees, shins, hands, feet, toes (but save genitals) as you dance to the mirror.
Pick up the hand mirror. See your reflection reflect on your body from every vantage. 

As you stand before your image, notice what you like most and least about your body, what you see about your health, your assets and your liabilities.


What do you appreciate about your body? How will you improve your health and appearance?
Identify with your body; become it.
As body, say what’s difficult and what’s satisfying about serving as this soul’s soma.
Say how you feel about the way your person reacts to you.
What would you like her or him to value you for?
What else would you like her or him to know?
Use both mirrors. Look in your orifices.
Focus on, then become your genitals, roleplay your genitals. As Genitals, how do you feel?How did you feel in the mirror examination? What, as Genitals, is your existence as your person’s genitals?
Say what you, as the voice of your body, want and need.
Say “Lam,” touch your rosebud [anal orifice] with your hand and ask your earthy essence to come to your genital shrine for joy.
Chant “Vam,” touch your genitals and invite your Sensual subself.
Say “Ram,” rub your belly and invite the spirit of your inner Strength to join the fun.
Say “Yam,” touch your heart and invoke your Romantic inner voice.
Say “Ham,” inviting your sound-maker-Singer self to be present as you make love to yourself.
Chant “Ooo,” rub your third eye (between your eyebrows) and summons your inner Visioner.
Make the sound “Mm” and invite your Universal Consciousness to be present too.


Pleasure yourself slowly as you look in your own eyes in the mirror.


Tell yourself aloud how much you love making love to yourself. Say, “I love you dear, [say your name].”
Affirm your deepest devotion as you orgasm.
Practice bandha-breathing.
View lovers masturbatory movements and show yours to them to learn one another’s techniques.
Learn in Tantra.

  • varieties of self-pleasuring, 


  • position-choreography, 


  • male ejaculation control, 


  • female ejaculation, 


  • kundalini quivering and 


  • sustained in-gasms and orgasms.